If you are in the middle of a relationship and find things to be overwhelming, you can not figure out what is wrong and what is right, you have many troubles in your relationship. You feel that you are fooling yourself by pretending to be happy, you want to change the situation but you can not because you are afraid of the unknown. These signs among others form what we call a troubled relationship; it can overweigh you and put extra burden on your shoulders because your relationship could be damaged. You could also feel guilty when you lie or hide the truth.
Remember these old days when there were passion and warm feelings in the relationship? Now your feelings are mixed and you can not decide where to go with your troubled relationship.
Now you have realized the status and you want to deal with your troubled relationship, it is important to focus and get a list of what sort of things that you want and what you do not want in a perfect relationship. The may be you do not want to be cheated on, abused, and ignored. When it comes to the things you want, my list can contain some things like being emotionally mature, having peace of mind. Some people may want to go wild and get some excitement or passion. Some sophisticated people want to be intellectually stimulated, may be they want their spouse or partner to discuss abstract ideas with them, attend outside meetings and run cultural events.
Now you have a list in hand, then you need to read them through to mark their priorities. You need to know your situation and determine where you are going if you kept riding this track. Discuss with your partner and try and figure out whether they will get up to the responsibility and do their duties to help get rid of the troubled relationship status. They should do their best to take their share in fixing the relationship and get out of the troubled status to wards an easy and fruitful relationship.
However, sometimes the situation is too complicated. If so, you need to slow down. Make your head clear and see things reasonably. To do this you have to separate from your spouse or partner, take your personal space, this is very powerful because both of you and your partner can take the time alone to brainstorm bout the situation without distraction, you might feel loneliness or miss your partner, that might help you too. Without being forced to live together have to make all these day to day fights and arguments, both of you will have a clear head which will enable you to analyze the situation reasonably.
What you may figure out that the relationship is a total waste of time and efforts and that the best thing you both must do is to end the relationship. However, some relationships are not meant to be, you have to deal with them with logic and do not be biased or taken by your emotions. Believe you have endless opportunities out there and your soul mate might be waiting for you. If you do find that you and your partner are capable to remove the obstacles and ease the tension in your troubled relationship, you and your partner must keep an open and communicative atmosphere. Communication is key value, and you need it in order to get rid of all that trouble that undermines your relationship continuity.
If you are facing a troubled relationship, that does not mean the end in inevitable. It do mean that you and your partner need to work hard to save and nourish it to live again, pump new fresh blood into the veins of your troubled relationship in order to give it life.
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Monday, February 23, 2009
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